I came across these excellent graphics used to educate and prevent against domestic dominance and abuse.
The first wheel shows how “power and control” are used to instill fear and dominate domestic partners as well as in an overall pattern of relationships with physical and sexual violence:
- Emotional Abuse
- Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming
- Using Children
- Male Privilege
- Economic Abuse
- Coercion and Threats
In contrast, the second wheel displays positive patterns of “equality” in relationships and nonviolence and are marked by the following attributes:
- Non-threatening behavior
- Trust and Support
- Honesty and Accountability
- Responsible Parenting
- Shared Responsibility
- Economic Partnership
- Negotiation and Fairness
Have you ever noticed a pattern of domestic abuse behaviors that include the following?
- Constantly lecturing on political views the other person should hold.
- Keeping them away from their family and friends.
- Controlling the major life decisions.
- Hiding money and accounts.
- Demanding the partner stay home with the kids indefinitely.
- Using emotional withdrawal and/or passive aggressiveness to control.
- Requiring the other person to be available whenever they want.
Spouses and partners should be your best friend and not your servant or dog to kick when you get home.
Watch out for those who exhibit the bad behaviors and patterns of abuse and violence…and stay safe in good and healthy relationships! ;-)
(Source Photo: Domestic Abuse Intervention Project — Duluth Model)